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I am trying a new type of post. Well new to me. I will tell you right now, I am going through a journey, with my hair. The reason, and I am not sure if my Caucasian sisters out there are going through the same, but when you are a colored sister, not just African Americans, you take issue with your hair. (Oops, run-on, sorry).
Let me explain…
When I was a little girl, I had this long, thick, kinky hair. If you were to straighten it (a process of taking heat to hair and making it manageable to style), it would have probably be half way down to my butt. My mom, on Saturday nights, would fix my hair that way, and I loved it. So my mom help me with my hair, until I was a teen. When I was a teen, I experimented a lot, and I had eczema, which made my go from that length to just above my shoulders. So thus started the damaging process of my hair.
|Me in first grade|
Fast forward to my twenties….I had Jeri Curls. Some of you know what I am talking about. It takes some doing with Jeri curls. You spray for days, and then sleep on it. I have messed up more pillow cases that way, and then came Wave Nuevo. I do not even want to talk about it. It was just that painful. Finally came what Chris Rock calls, “The Creamy Crack”. Yep, I started relaxing my hair. Well relax I did, and relaxed, and relaxed some more. The last relaxer I had, which was 2010, took out some of my hair. So I decided to go natural, but I instead decided to braid and twist my hair. I have not relaxed it at all since 2011.
So, now it has been almost three years, and I am loving the twists, but I need to rest it a little. The wonderful thing about African braiders are they can have 3-4 people work on you at the same time, but the worst thing about them is, THEY DO NOT WASH YOUR HAIR IF THEY CAN HELP IT. At least if you go to an African American beautician (which is NOT the same), they will wash your hair before taking the twists out and re-twisting it. African American beauticians will also tell you if they think it is time to give it a rest, but African braiders do not. (I guess they want that money more than anything, I don’t know)
On to washing….(warning-affiliate link ahead)
I will tell you right now, I am lazy. It has been a month since I washed (please say eww, because I am), mainly because I hate the shampoo that I got for braids and twists only. Look, I am going to break it down to you, and I am telling myself this too, you need to wash your hair, period. The scalp is skin, and skin needs hydration to thrive. So last week, I broke open the piggy bank, and bought a product line called Carol’sDaughter Black Vanilla. I have the shampoo, conditioner, smoothie (more on that in a moment), and leave-in conditioner, and used it for the first time last night. I can tell the difference already. I am not an expert, but to me, leave the stuff formulated for braids and twists in the store (except the sheen). Use your regular shampoo and that’s it.
Have a regular shower routine. FYI-I know it is harder on mothers to do this, but if you can have your spouse or partner take the baby for a while, or do it late at night when baby/child is sleeping, you will thank yourself in the morning. Light a candle or two, and get in.
|Image from Carol's Daughter|
Caution: Codes ahead. I took the CDS, and worked up a good lather. This stuff smells amazing. Make sure you get all the way to the ends, even if they are extensions. Treat your extension as part of your hair. Rinse well, getting all of the shampoo out. Repeat, if needed. Next, take the conditioner, and do the same, BUT, let it sit for 3-5 mins. You want this stuff to condition your scalp, and to condition the hair. Rinse, again getting the conditioner out. Take the smoothie, and go from root to tip, making sure you detangle along the way. Do not pull hard. According to YouTubber Naptural85 AKA Whitney , you can detangle with your fingers, instead of using a comb. It sure help me. After that, rinse the smoothie out.
Once you towel dried your hair (I washed my body after the routine, a plus), take the hair oil (which, I did not have, but will get) and from root to tip, according to Whitney, not the bottle instructions, put it on, but do not rinse. Last, spray in your leave-in conditioner. Do not rinse it out either. One tip from Whitney, and I suggest it too, especially after failing to do it until I was applying the smoothie, if you have long hair or like mine, twisted, divide into sections, so it can be an easy process.
Let hair air-dry in sections (I did, three big twists for me to sleep in). The next day, take out the big twists, and style. Oh, one thing I forget to mention as well. After spraying in the leave in conditioner, you can do your roller sets, your twist-outs, or any style you want to start out with in the morning, and then style it when you get ready for the day. I basically use the braid/twist sheen for mine.
Do it for weekly routine. If your wash too much, you can stripe your hair of the natural oils it produces, and that it not good either. If you need to shorten your routine, just shampoo, conditioner, and leave in conditioner will do.
If you would like to see me do more of these types of posts, let me know in the comments section.